One of the first things I learned in the education program was the importance of leaving our feelings at the door and focusing on the children. I agree with this and I feel like we should try to put our outside life, outside the classroom but there is a point where this can be come inauthentic. This past week was a little stressful for me, not work wise, but wedding planning wise. I don’t think I talk that much about my wedding at work and I really don’t have time to even think about it. So in a way I was leaving this stress at the door (only kind of because I did end up talking to my co-teacher about it) but it still followed me into the classroom in the form of seeking control.
Since I wasn’t feeling in control of my planning or of my stress I was looking to get control in other aspects of my life. Let me tell you it did not make me a very great, respectful or responsive teacher. The afternoons were pretty tough because I had more time to worry about all the other things in my life (I have NOTHING to worry about, I’m very blessed) and I would get really grumpy. One child asked me to hold something for them on the playground and we negotiated a little bit about it because I didn’t want to hold whatever it was. FOR REAL BECKY??!?!?!? It’s not that big of a deal just hold it or walk with the child back to the classroom so they can put it away.
I guess what I’m trying to get at is:
- It’s important to leaving your feeling and outside drama at the door
- It’s important to be in the classroom mentally, emotionally and physically
- It’s important to be AUTHENTIC so if you can’t do the above two let the children know you’re not feeling like yourself (in an appropriate way)
I feel after the negotiation period between me and the child on the playground I could have told them: “that was pretty different. I don’t normally tell you I won’t hold something. I’m feeling a little grumpy today. What do you think we could do with your coat?”
when in doubt be honest!